How often do you talk crap? TO YOURSELF???
- I’m too old for…..
- I’m too fat for…..
- I’m too skinny for…..
- I’m not smart enough for…..
- I can’t…..
- I shouldn’t…..
- I don’t…..
Are you even aware that you’re doing it? Many people aren’t even aware that the things they say to themselves mentally or the things they mutter under their breath are negative and actually sabotaging their progress and success.
The first thing you need to do is become aware that you are doing it and pay attention to when you are doing it. If you mutter things to yourself when something goes wrong, start listening to yourself. It’s likely that you’re being negative. If you use phrases like, “Well, I knew that would happen,” or “Well, that’s how things go for me,” or “Why should I expect anything to be different,” or “That’s just my luck”, then you are engaging in negative self talk.
Things will go wrong!
Everything isn’t perfect. When these little ugly moments happen, it’s best to just move on and not even acknowledge them, especially if you can’t be positive about them. I know, it’s hard to be positive when everything seems to be going wrong. However, if you notice when one thing goes wrong, if you react negatively it will create a domino effect and the rest of the day will go the same. If you just walk away, so to speak and not let it bother you, chances are things will start to go smoothly again.
More often than not, it’s one little minor instance – or thought – that gets the ball to rolling. When you mutter or think negatively about it you give power to the negative and it escalates. “What you think about, you bring about.” (Y’all….how many dang times have you heard me preach this!?) Instead, try having a positive thought. Think of something you’re grateful for. This will not only change your mood and outlook but it will change your vibration as well. Yep, I said it. Your vibration. It’s your energy. Your frequency. It’s what you put out into the universe! When you get into a positive vibration it helps to repel the negative.
Over time, negative self talk can lead to low self esteem, low quality of life, a bad outlook on life and every little aspect of your life and can lead to health problems. It’s very rare that you see positive people suffer from the same struggles as negative people. Negative people tend to always have something wrong with them, even if it’s just minor things, and many of them spend a good deal of time going to the doctor to find out what’s wrong with them. You hear them say things like, “Of course I’m getting a cold. I always get sick.” “There’s always something wrong with me.”
That’s not saying that positive people never get sick or have ailments, but they generally heal or recover faster, and often without going to a doctor for medication. People that concentrate on changing a negative mindset into a positive one typically get through stuff better.
Start practicing positive affirmations. This won’t be easy in the beginning if you’ve been a negative thinker for any length of time, but you can start practicing when you are in a good mood and feeling relaxed. By doing this you will prepare yourself to use them when you start thinking negative or start talking down to yourself.
Pay attention to the things that make you think and feel negative. There’s often a pattern to these events. If you can start to catch these events and use your affirmations, you can ward off a full blown negative melt-down. It may even feel unnatural at first, but once you start practicing this it will get easier.
You don’t have to go through life being negative. You can change this behavior. Just like any changes in behavior you make, this one will take time and can be very challenging. But please believe me when I tell you that it is worth it in the long run. Try it and see if you don’t start to feel better…see if people don’t respond to you better. No one wants to hang around a negative person. If you want to be someone people consider friendly and positive, start practicing having a better attitude and stop the negative self talk.