Have you heard the saying, “Everyone is a critic?” It’s true.
And, the biggest critic of all is staring right back at you in the mirror. No one has to come down hard on you because you are already putting yourself into a vicious head lock as it is. Keep reading to find out six ways that you can send that cynical noisemaker packing.
They say that you can talk to yourself as long as you don’t answer back. If you don’t answer back, however, all those potentially negative thoughts will continue unchallenged. This is even worse than being thought of as crazy for talking to yourself. We often follow the patterns created in our minds by our thoughts and allowing negative self-talk to dominate your mind can lead to low self-esteem, bad habits, depression and other unhealthy results.
So here it is…….6 Ways to Get over on Yo-Self!
- Don’t let the pressure get to you. Be proactive. Attack those thoughts as soon as they start to speak. Get creative.
- Box up your negativity – for realz! In the grand scheme of our life, each problem holds a small place overall. Seeing it as small – although sometimes more challenging than we would like it to be – lessens its power over you. Whenever you are bothered by a negative thought about yourself because of the way you handled something or because you made a mistake, write it down on a piece of paper. Put it away in that small box. See your issue literally getting smaller in size and being put to rest . Those thoughts do not define who you are.
- Replace negativity with positive self-talk. When a negative thought is removed something needs to fill its place in your mind. Exchange a negative (“I am worthless because I struggle with________.”) for a positive thought (“I am a unique and worthwhile person because I keep trying.”). If the negative thoughts can keep you down, then surely the positive ones can lift you up.
- Talk to a trusted friend. Explain the situation that made you feel so bad. Allow your friend to console you, maybe offer some advice, and challenge that negative thought pattern that is condemning you.
- Get realistic. Was the situation as bad as you imagined it was? (Probably not! They usually aren’t!) Maybe you are exaggerating the story because of the negatives swirling in your mind? (I’ve done it! Ain’t no shame in realizing and admitting that!) Take a realistic look at you and put things into perspective.
- Accept your imperfections! Sister…..this is the big one. Don’t “agree to disagree” with certain attributes but choose to embrace them as old friends. They are a part of you – the good, the bad, the quirky and the peculiar. God made you – every single last detail of you – just the way you are. Love who you are and then move on to making changes in your life.
Count your positives! It’s similar to counting your blessings and we all need to get better at that.
So begin here………What is good about you? What have you done that is positive? I’m not telling you it will be easy but if you start to re-program your mind the moment you start hearing the ugly talk to think about what’s good, you will eventually learn to always think the good.
Don’t let that voice in your head overshadow your actual voice. Speak the truth and change your circumstances.